Managing holiday stressors

It’s that time of year when expectations are high, energy levels are low, queues are long, and people’s patience is short.

Holidays allow a shift in routine to enjoy leisure activities, but a pleasurable time is not always experienced for yourself or others you holiday with. Recognising potential stressors before they occur is helpful.

1) Obligation to fit in with family expectations at Christmas/New Year celebrations.

Supporting family members with traditions, large family gatherings, and festive celebrations may not appeal to you. Allow yourself pockets of ‘you time’ if the environment becomes too uncomfortable. Consider an exit strategy, even if it's as simple as taking a walk with the dog.

2) Imbalance of responsibilities on a family holiday.

Pre-planning of shared parenting is beneficial, e.g., alternating sleep–ins, meal planning, organising family activities. Make your requests known to your partner, and if you are parenting solo, let your children know what you need for yourself during the holiday.

3) Unrealistic time commitment to your ‘to-do list’ or someone else’s list.

Some people thrive on busyness to the detriment of their self-care. Holidays are an opportunity to be ‘sensibly selfish.’ Always allow time on your to-do list to reconnect with yourself. Set realistic intentions of what can be achieved, including what others expect of you.

4) Grieving a loss due to death, divorce, or disconnection from family members.

December/January can be triggering months, as we feel the absence of loved ones. Allow yourself space to honour the joyous memories and be open to embracing different holiday experiences.

5) Aloneness.

If you are content to be in your own company and savour solitude, enjoy! If being alone during the Christmas holiday week feels lonely, look for opportunities to interact with others. 

6) Sensory overwhelm.

Navigating the freneticism of the Christmas holiday season is achievable. Maintain firm boundaries with your budget of time, finances, and energy levels. Ensure your family and friends are aware of them and your request to respect them.

Holiday stressors are manageable when we acknowledge what is within our control and what isn’t.

Learn to say “no” more often than is comfortable until it feels comfortable – your mind, body, and soul will thank you.

Trish