... retire from walking a life path that is not yours to walk
We think of retirement as no longer working for money but what if we viewed it as withdrawing from any 'doing' that is no longer necessary or sustainable in our life?
What could that look like for you?
To consider:
1) Are you feeling responsible for others before yourself?
Whether maintaining leadership or a supportive role, being constantly available to others can be detrimental to allowing them to grow independence and responsibility. Adult children need to learn the skills of adulting. Friends and colleagues create their life consequences. Employees will show their capabilities when given the opportunity to do so.
Where can you retire from assuming responsibility for family members, friends, or employees, who can take on the responsibility themselves?
2) What can you withdraw from that no longer nurtures your wellbeing; mind, body, and soul?
With the start of a new year, it's beneficial to review relationships, career commitments, and leisure activities. Sometimes, a shift of focus is required. Sometimes finance or health issues impact ongoing options. Sometimes, a necessary ending in an area of life heralds a healthy beginning for something fresh and new.
Has the time come to retire from something that doesn't give you fulfillment or joy?
3) What are you wanting to change in your life this year?
Often, we need to divest ourselves of guilt when we don't meet the expectations and obligations others have of us. Sometimes, we will need to change our own perception of what is healthy and unhealthy in our being and doing. Always, we want to be living our life authentically and not how someone else wants us to live it.
"If nothing changes, nothing changes. If you keep doing what you're doing, you're going to keep getting what you're getting." Courtney C. Stevens.
What am I retiring from, this year?
I’m retiring from being available to other people’s responsibilities to the detriment of being available to myself.
This does not mean I am shirking my personal relationships, responsibilities, and healthy life decisions. This means I now allow others to be accountable for shirking their personal relationships, responsibilities, and healthy life decisions.
What are you retiring from? Please contact me if I can help you clarify what needs to change, to achieve renewed confidence for what you want in your life.
Trish Beauchamp; Life Coach https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachingwithTrish