… ‘Le mur des je t’aime’, Paris.
As I write this blog post I am spending time with family, in Paris.
One of my favourite places to visit is the ‘I Love you Wall’ in Montmartre.
The artwork was created by Frédéric Baron and Claire Kito. The phrase, ‘I love you’ was collected in different languages by asking their multilingual neighbours and visiting embassies.
To love has no pre-determined structure, neither does it come with instructions – it just is. Maybe that is why it is both simplistic and complex to give and receive love.
Love can be felt in many forms. My love for morning coffee is insignificant compared to the love for my grandbabies I have just met. When I return to NZ, I will savour the wonderful memories of time spent with them - and resume morning routines I enjoy, like reconnecting with my coffee machine.
We can love someone, without knowing them personally, as an expression of respect and admiration for who they represent to us. The outpouring of grief following news of the Queen’s passing was in response to feeling the loss of someone revered and honoured.
Have you felt love for a family member, but don’t actually like them as a person? That can be an uncomfortable relationship to navigate but it is a reality for some people.
Sometimes, what we know as love changes as a romance or friendship evolves. A relationship may end with or without our choosing, or it may shift to become a different connection.
There is a cost attached when we choose to love - particularly when change or loss occurs through death, divorce, disconnection or emotional distancing. To love is to experience a heart connection with someone. To love is also being vulnerable to heartache and grief.
The quote above the ‘I Love you Wall’ reads, "Loving is chaos … so, let's love."
That makes sense to me.
Please contact me if I can help you navigate the chaos of love relationships in your life.
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